What I didn’t know 6 years ago…

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I used to identify first as an atheist. I’m so over that. I’m over the “movement.”

And I’ll tell you why: The secular and atheist community is so heavily male-dominated and misogynistic that I’m just done. The bros have taken over. Well, they actually have always been in charge of it.

Having women in leadership who don’t just parrot bullshit is essential. But I now know that is unlikely to happen in my lifetime. This led me to realize I’m first a woman, an intersectional, feminist, woman.  Somewhere way down the line in my identity is atheist. I still reject religion completely, but I cannot focus on that.

My focus has changed… and maybe even more true to why I created CitizenRoe in the first place: marginalization of women and our reproductive rights. So fuck the atheist world. Fuck the patriarchy! Ladies, I’m all in for us! More to come…

The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About


Read this again today. Because it is damn sure worth another reading.

Drifting Through

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There’s this thing that happens whenever I speak about or write about women’s issues. Things like dress codes, rape culture and sexism. I get the comments: Aren’t there more important things to worry about? Is this really that big of a deal? Aren’t you being overly sensitive? Are you sure you’re being rational about this?

Every. Single. Time.

And every single time I get frustrated. Why don’t they get it?

I think I’ve figured out why.

They don’t know.

They don’t know about de-escalation. Minimizing. Quietly acquiescing.

Hell, even though women live it, we are not always aware of it. But we have all done it.

We have all learned, either by instinct or by trial and error, how to minimize a situation that makes us uncomfortable. How to avoid angering a man or endangering ourselves. We have all, on many occasions, ignored an offensive comment. We’ve all…

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The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About


Source: The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About

original by Gretchen Kelley


How many have to die so you can carry your gun without restriction?


How many? And are you willing to have the dead include your loved ones? What if those who consider themselves the “good guys with a gun” are not there to protect the innocent from the “bad guy”?

Disturbingly often, I read in the news in my state that someone used a legal gun to commit horrible crimes. I continue to be saddened by the loss of life and the many innocent people who are put in danger because of lax gun laws. Texas, when will we learn? Here’s one of the latest in Austin: Continue reading

lgbt+ equality: it’s not over

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There has been wonderful news in the last couple of weeks for equality. It feels surreal that lgbt+ people can now marry if they want to. I can’t wait to be at the wedding(s) of my many lgbt+ friends!

I am a straight ally and I want to recognize the many lgbt+ activists who have worked so hard for so many years leading up to this victory. I so admire what you all have accomplished! The continued expected changes are really exciting… equal access to benefits, tax breaks, and partners/spouses being included in end of life care. So, are we done? Continue reading

Richard Dawkins doesn’t speak for me…so, who does?

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I began reading this thinking it was about RD not speaking for women…. but – a pleasant surprise – this is about RD not speaking for this woman as a *scientist.* Definitely worth reading!

The Contemplative Mammoth

Richard Dawkins is at it again. This isn’t the firsttime he’s made inappropriate or offensive comments, and this infographic nicely illustrates the perpetual cycle of eye-rolling and submission as the people who call him out get fed up and ultimately disengage. What frustrates me so much about Dawkins is that he has this incredible platform– numerous popular books, frequent speaking engagements, nearly a million Twitter followers– and yet, to me, he’s doing more harm than good when it comes to outreach about science. Racist and sexist comments are not only offensive, they contribute to the lack of diversity in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math).

Dawkins’ comments also bother me for another reason, which is what I’m going to focus on in this post: Richard Dawkins is one of the handful of living scientists that Americans can name. This means that he’s something of a spokesperson for science, and for scientists. Whether I like it or not, he…

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Sexuality Education


Have you noticed we don’t call it “Sexuality Education?” It’s “Sex Ed.” As if we are only supposed to learn and teach about the nuts and bolts of a sex act. Continue reading